What is attachment repair?

If you’ve spent years in therapy, 12-Step programs, or other healing modalities yet still feel stuck in the same painful relationship cycles, emotional triggers, and nervous system overwhelm, you’re not broken — you’re dealing with insecure or disorganized attachment.

My name is Melissa Hower, Attachment Coach in Boston, MA. My work focuses on attachment repair using the Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPF) — a powerful, research-based method for rewiring the original attachment conditioning stored deep in your nervous system. Through weekly sessions, clients experience the changes they’ve been seeking for decades:

• A secure attachment style and embodied sense of safety

• Sustainable emotional regulation

• Healthy, reciprocal relationships

• The ability to feel joy, ease, and authentic self-worth

• Relief from the “healing hamster wheel” of endless tools, coping mechanisms, and new therapists

Clients consistently describe my approach as deeply compassionate, collaborative, and refreshingly human — we laugh, we explore, and we work precisely at the root of what’s kept you stuck.

As a former IPF client myself, and through extensive training with leading teachers in the field — including IPF co-creator David Elliott, Mettagroup’s George Haas, and respected facilitator Evan Leed— I understand this process from the inside out.

When you repair your attachment style from insecure to secure, your entire lived experience transforms from the bottom up.

No more chasing the next healing modality. No more feeling like something is missing. This is deep, foundational change — the kind that unfolds naturally, organically, and finally.

If you’re ready to stop surviving and start truly living, attachment repair may be the path you’ve been searching for.